I am dressed in white. A long veil with beading around the edge accents my face. I am radiant with joy and love and expectation…and for the first time in my life, I am aware of my own beauty. He waits for me there, at the front of the church. Standing tall in a black tuxedo. He smiles at me – the kind of smile that makes my heart swell with love and pride, but also makes me ache just to be nearer to him, no matter how near we are.
Music echos throughout the room, announcing my arrival. I’d selected Pachebell’s Canon in D to be my wedding march when I was but a starry-eyed, day dreaming little girl. And now, a pianist is playing it for me. And my daddy walks me down the aisle, to him.
We are standing in a church, hundreds of people watching our wedding ceremony, but we are hardly aware that we stand in front of a crowd. We speak the words, those words – our vows to each other. We pledge our lives and our hearts and our affections to each other.
We make our vows:
For better – and I think to myself, what could be better than this?
For worse – and a tiny, unforgettable thought, what will “worse” look like?
And we stand before a crowd and make an irrevocable vow, and though we are young and crazy in love, we know this day is so much more than our wedding day. It is the day that marks the beginning of our marriage.
Our marriage. It is the single most exhilarating gift that God has given me. We are sometimes asked to share our tips for a successful marriage. I often laugh and say something like,
“If you want a godly marriage, marry a godly person.”
The fact that I am married to a man who diligently and purposefully pursues godliness really adds to the “success” of our marriage.
Last year, while on a date, The Professor and I pondered what it means to have a successful marriage. When I asked him to define a “successful” marriage, his immediate, unfiltered response was, ”selfless love that perseveres.” Oh how I love that man. Quite the philosophical answer, isn’t it?
I asked him to elaborate, and he explained, “a successful marriage is one where two people persevere in their self-sacrificing and mutually submissive love for one another.” My heart swelled with love for this wise, deeply thoughtful man. That he would define a successful marriage in such a way that requires sacrifice, and giving up of one’s own will for another, it fills my heart with thankfulness that he’s all mine.
Blogging Challenges Q & A with Framed Frosting
ARD: As a blogger, what is your biggest challenge for growing your community, and how do you deal with it?
FF: Growing an online community definitely isn’t easy and it doesn’t come naturally. I really struggled at first trying to find my place in the blogging world and what direction I wanted my blog to move in. However, I soon starting connecting with other 20-something bloggers who understood what I was going through and encouraged me. Reading their blogs led me to another blog and I soon became friends with the girl behind that one too…and from there I’ve met so many fabulous women who I consider to be more than just online friends.